![]() So, if you want to punish effectively, you need to figure out what your intended result actually is. ‘Effective’ broadly means something which is successful in producing a desired or intended result. What is an effective punishment for subs? It’s perfectly fine if you’re not into the real thing, or want to play around with both – just make sure you and your partner are on the same page. ‘Funishment’ refers to using the narrative of punishment for mutual pleasure. Don’t want to correct your sub? You’re probably after ‘funishment’ ![]() Punishment is a means of correcting undesirable behaviour. Is punishment the same thing as discipline?ĭiscipline refers to the practice of teaching a submissive to obey a set of rules and display the desired standard of behaviour. That is to say, punishment, just like reward, beauty, and the optimal shade of brown for toast, is entirely in the eye of the beholder. And from the submissive’s side, what counts as punishment is entirely subjective. ![]() So, whether something is a punishment is defined by the dominant’s intention to correct behaviour. So if punishment isn’t about pain, what is it? Well, punishment really just refers to a consequence for doing something wrong. Want someone to write out lines or do your laundry in a head-to-toe scuba suit? There’s someone out there for whom that sounds like the perfect Saturday. If you think punishment means a good thorough beating, well, say hello to scores of masochists out there. Punishing a sub doesn’t necessarily mean hurting them So, first things first, make sure it’s really what you’re after. Punishment as often fetishised and fantasied about as it is misunderstood. Section 1: Understanding Punishment in D/s Relationships Are you actually looking to punish your sub? So, I wrote this guide to put a better resource out there. In fact, I found very little out there addressing the communication, self-reflection, and emotional processing required to set and develop effective punishments for subs. Which is not particularly helpful if you’re after advice on how to implement ‘real’ punishments as part of a power exchange dynamic. The thing is, they are mostly in books and buried in Reddit threads.īut when it comes to online resources, most of what you find when you search for ‘punishments for subs’ or ‘punishment sub’ or the usual truncated Google nonsense are listicles of sexytime funishment ideas. There are some great resources on how to punish a sub out there. ![]() I have done my best to make it navigable – you will find an index below and the guide is split up into six sections.īefore diving in, just a quick word on why I wrote this. It covers everything you need to know to design and implement effective submissive punishment within a D/s dynamic.ĭo excuse the length, but I wanted to be as thorough as possible. This guide to punishments for subs is based on my years of experience, reading, research and community discussions, as well as a lot of trial and error in my 24/7 TPE dynamic. Welcome to my comprehensive guide on how to punish a sub effectively.Īnd when I say comprehensive, oh boy, do I mean it. ![]()
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